The DoubtingThomas dating / relationships MEGATHREAD

[_DoubtingThomas]

planing to find sex without commitment with someone fitting your fantasy .

I want to be in a happy relationship, but I am not looking for marriage.

[_subgenius]

You are right. I don't know what I really want at this point.

Then starting this thread was, and always will be, a mistake. You can't crowdsource love, dude.

[_DoubtingThomas]

You aren't prepared to have a girlfriend.

I feel I wasted many precious years of my life that will never come back and I realize that I am not eternal. It is not easy to be an Atheist and think that someday it will all be over. It is so depressive. I need therapy because I don't have a girlfriend and because I feel lonely. Simple. My life has no meaning right now!

I been very patient, but nothing happens.

You don't know where the 'right' therapist is. No one has to drive hundreds of miles to find a therapist.

I do need the right therapist.

https://www.seculartherapy.org/

[_Lemmie]

You don't know where the 'right' therapist is. No one has to drive hundreds of miles to find a therapist.

I do need the right therapist.

https://www.seculartherapy.org/

Just so I understand, in your quote above after Jersey Girl's comment, do you feel like you were directly responding to Jersey Girl's point? Or did you intend your comment to be something else?

[_Jersey Girl]

You aren't prepared to have a girlfriend.

I feel I wasted many precious years of my life that will never come back and I realize that I am not eternal. It is not easy to be an Atheist and think that someday it will all be over. It is so depressive. I need therapy because I don't have a girlfriend and because I feel lonely. Simple. My life has no meaning right now!

I been very patient, but nothing happens.

You don't know where the 'right' therapist is. No one has to drive hundreds of miles to find a therapist.

I do need the right therapist.

https://www.seculartherapy.org/

Yes. By all means, live your life dependent on Internet websites that specialize in post-religion reparative therapy to tell you what you need. Do NOT under any circumstances, google up therapists in your area or get a referral list from your health insurance, pick up the phone and schedule an appointment.

And stop bolding phrases like "It is so depressive". It makes you appear to be raising the emotional stakes on this thread in order to sustain attention here. It is manipulative.

Note to you: When Jersey Girl withdraws her charitable and patient response from 'help' threads such as this, that's the canary in the mine that signals that you've reached the end of the line with her.

[_Res Ipsa]

It’s another excuse to do nothing to “fix” his situation. Same old same old.

[_Jersey Girl]

It's a darn shame that I can file away behavioral information and retrieve it with almost no effort at all. And don't worry, I can do it when it's scattered across multiple threads as well.

Let's compare your statements below:

You aren't prepared to have a girlfriend.

I feel I wasted many precious years of my life that will never come back and I realize that I am not eternal. It is not easy to be an Atheist and think that someday it will all be over. It is so depressive. I need therapy because I don't have a girlfriend and because I feel lonely. Simple. My life has no meaning right now!

I been very patient, but nothing happens.

DT 2 weeks ago:

Now I am not saying that the lack of sex is responsible for the high suicide rates, but loneliness could be an important contributor. Thank goodness my atheist-agnosticism protects me.

http://www.mormondiscussions.com/phpBB3 ... &p=1183438

If that's you signaling that you are in a state of depression and bordering on ideation of suicide (It's so depressive! My life has no meaning right now!), you need a therapist.

If that's you attempting to manipulate people here in order to get attention, you need a therapist.

You need a therapist.

[_honorentheos]

You need a therapist.

Yup.

[_Jersey Girl]

It’s another excuse to do nothing to “fix” his situation. Same old same old.

This thread (13 pages) is a continuation of the original thread (titled the same and 6 pages long) that started back in March. Then he posted this thread, then he posted the suicide thread, and when he wasn't getting satisfaction on the suicide thread (1 page), he immediately bumped up this thread.

I can't help but "store" information like that. But don't go by me, see for yourself.

[_Jersey Girl]

Let me just make a series of comments here. We've got what I consider the best of the best on this thread. honor, RI, Lemmie, and I'm putting myself in that category, all of us are insightful in one way or another, to one degree or another.

Here is my deal. I have had a long day and getting crankier by the minute so I'm not going to mince words. I have been in attendance to involuntary and voluntary psych hold situations. I've been the first call, the transport, the support person, and the visitor. I have dealt with 911 calls, admissions, police, you name it and almost always in the middle of the night. I have sat my ass in ER's and slept on chairs sitting upright for full weekends, followed ambulances, etc., I have spent hours upon hours of my life in phone conversation with the depressed and grieving. I have cleaned up bloody clothing post-suicide. I have snatched pill bottles, clean sweeped and locked up meds and 'sharps'.

And what is happening on this thread is BS.

If this guy is signaling despair in order to get ongoing attention here, he gets a big Screw you for doing that because in my life mental illness isn't a damned toy to throw around the room to get a rise out of people.

If this guy is really in trouble, there is nothing any of us can do remotely to help him. He needs to schedule in with a therapist or show up at the ER.

Notice how he indicates the need for a secular therapist. Why is that? He says he isn't living in Utah right now. Did anyone catch that post of his?

Why is it whenever therapy is mentioned, he continues to sidestep and avoid? Moving the goal posts out just a bit further each time constructive suggestions are made?

Which leads me back to what Lemmie said earlier--What game is he playing?