The DoubtingThomas dating / relationships MEGATHREAD

[_Jersey Girl]

Why do you think that moment would be special?

[_DoubtingThomas]

And it's not name-calling to point out creepy comments are creepy.

By definition the word "creepy" means "Causing an unpleasant feeling of fear or unease". Can you explain to be how am I a threat to society?

It is normal to have the desire to sleep with a virgin. Most people did it, so why can't I? Most people lost their virginity with another virgin. Look at the statistics. All I see from you is opinion and no data.

[_Jersey Girl]

Can you explain to be how am I a threat to society?

Who said you were a threat to society?

[_Lemmie]

And it's not name-calling to point out creepy comments are creepy.

By definition the word "creepy" means "Causing an unpleasant feeling of fear or unease". Can you explain to be how am I a threat to society?

It is normal to have the desire to sleep with a virgin. Most people did it, so why can't I? Most people lost their virginity with another virgin. Look at the statistics. All I see from you is opinion and no data.

I said your creepy statements are creepy, and you keep bypassing that.

Here are just a few of your creepy statements, from just the last few pages:

I simply want to know what it feels like to take the virginity from someone special...

I can legally date a 17 year old in my state, but I am only looking for 18 or older.

I am attracted to younger adult women, it is a sexual orientation.

I wouldn't want a woman that has received a lot of d***ks or has 3+ children. That is why I would prefer 18-22.

For now I do deserve a woman that wasn't sexually active.

According to some scientific studies I will be much happier with a younger woman. Hopefully 18-22.

There's no way an adult doesn't know how creepy stuff like that is, and you've been told so many times and yet you still feign ignorance at what people find creepy, so i ask again,
WHAT GAME ARE YOU PLAYING HERE?

[_DoubtingThomas]

I said your creepy statements are creepy, and you keep bypassing that.

You didn't show the context on some of those comments.

There's no way an adult doesn't know how creepy stuff like that is

Most adults lost their virginity with another virgin. It is something completely normal.

and you've been told so many times and yet you still feign ignorance at what people find creepy, so i ask again,
WHAT GAME ARE YOU PLAYING HERE?

By definition the word "creepy" means "Causing an unpleasant feeling of fear or unease". So how am I causing fear?

[_Lemmie]

There's no way an adult doesn't know how creepy stuff like that is.

[_DoubtingThomas]

There's no way an adult doesn't know how creepy stuff like that is.

Well I have the desire to do what most people did. It is just a desire, it doesn't mean I am going to ever to it. I might die a virgin.

Next time just call me creepy and stupid. I am stupid because I just don't get it.

[_DoubtingThomas]

Being a helpless, whiny, needy, wimp is incredibly unattractive. If he is miserable in his own skin, why would anybody else want to join him?

I am just tired because loneliness is not a good thing. You do suffer. Women do not know that I am whiny and needy, and can't possibly know that by looking at my profile on dating sites. My problem is that I work more than 40 hours a week and I don't have friends to go out with. I am not enjoying life.

It doesn't really matter whether he fantasies about a young beautiful virgin or an older more interesting individual.

Thank You!

What's the fascination with virgins? What are you, from the 16th century or something? "Virgin" is a another word for young and inexperienced.

You may be right. I will do some research to find out if that really matters at all. In my mind it does matter, but I could be wrong.

is looking for real answers

I do look for real answers and it also helps me to express my frustrations. You need to let it out.

How about just not bothering about him? Noe of this seems to be going anywhere interesting, does it?

Yea nobody cares about me in real life. That is why some become drug addicts or criminals. I really need to try drugs to feel better, but I am not going to do it.

I think this may be the root of your problem: Your goal is to take, not to give. If you want a healthy relationship, it must be the other way around.

For a healthy relationship I think it has to be both ways. You have to give and receive. I won't be looking for a virgin for ever and I am not looking for virgins only.

That's not perverse.

Why is that a bad thing? You probably lost your virginity with another virgin. But as I told Perfume on my Mind I will have to do some research to see it that matters.

[_DoubtingThomas]

And nobody is replying to my messages on Match. Not even women that are two years older than me.

[_Jersey Girl]

During the time you spent posting this afternoon (and I think you're still on the board as I write this) you could have had a session of professional therapy.