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[doubtingthomas]

I wish there was a clearer way to explain to him

Please try to explain it. I won't protest. I'll read your explanation without replying.

[huckelberry]

You don't think women in Mexico, Spain, France, Utah, and Germany tend to be more approachable?


I understand that women have to be careful. Do you disagree that women in Mexico are nicer?

1. Do women today have ‘too much choice’ with regard to their ability to choose partners?

To get back to your question, women do have "too much choice" when it comes to online dating.
Women who aren't very attractive do four times better than male supermodels, according to a study done by a pick-up artist dating coach.
https://www.youtube.com/shorts/XHdO4uMD2Us

"women in Mexico nicer"?

I don't know ,if they are so what? why are you worried about that? I am unsure what nicer is supposed to mean and find it odd to make a generalization about millions of people.

[Marcus]

bull damned crap, little boy. you do not speak the 'truth' in any way. it is true, however, that your incel-steeped feelings are irrelevant to the truth.
Stop talking about women as though they are things.

I am not an incel.

i don't care what you think you are or are not, i am saying you speak about women as things and that is sexist.

You don't think women in Mexico, Spain, France, Utah, and Germany tend to be more approachable?

Please give me a reference.

Your comments are sexist. Stop talking about women as things.

I made the simple observation that women have reason to be cautious about men and Thomas protests his own innocence as if it was all about him.

I understand that women have to be careful. Do you disagree that women in Mexico are nicer?

and you need to stop talking about women as though they are things.

1. Do women today have ‘too much choice’ with regard to their ability to choose partners?

To get back to your question, women do have "too much choice" when it comes to online dating.
Women who aren't very attractive do four times better than male supermodels, according to a study done by a pick-up artist dating coach.
https://www.youtube.com/shorts/XHdO4uMD2Us

Stop talking about women as though they are things.

[doubtingthomas]

don't care what you think you are or are not, i

That's very offensive, I am not a "what" and please stop saying that men should cut their testicles. Men are not things.

[doubtingthomas]

Stop talking about women as though they are things.

Stop talking about men as "whats" to hate.

[doubtingthomas]

I don't know ,if they are so what? why are you worried about that? I am unsure what nicer is supposed to mean and find it odd to make a generalization about millions of people.

You should read this study, it sounds like Biblical prophecy being fulfilled. https://philpapers.org/rec/RSNSLA

Men should be more respectful to women, shouldn't women be nicer to men? Is there never room for improvement?

[Marcus]

"it's the culture" is no excuse for you to be sexist. do you really not understand how offensive your comments are? Stop talking about women as though they were things.

It seems fairly clear that he does not know. He sounds as if he has no idea why you say talking about women as though they were things.

I wish there was a clearer way to explain to him what he is doing but maybe Marcus you are right to just repeat the simplest observation.

I made the simple observation that women have reason to be cautious about men and Thomas protests his own innocence as if it was all about him.

I agree. At this point i just feel like there is a need to point out his sexism every time, at the very least so he doesn’t think that just because people get tired of pointing it out, it’s okay to be such a sexist ass.

[Morley]

I don't know ,if they are so what? why are you worried about that? I am unsure what nicer is supposed to mean and find it odd to make a generalization about millions of people.

You should read this study, it sounds like Biblical prophecy being fulfilled. https://philpapers.org/rec/RSNSLA

1) It's not a study, it's an editorial. The clue is right at the top, where it says, "This editorial..." Your relationship with science is just as fraught as your relationship with women.

2) I don't know what part of the Bible you've been reading to think this has any similarity to Biblical prophecy.

Men should be more respectful to women, shouldn't women be nicer to men? Is there never room for improvement?

No. Men should be respectful to women and women should be respectful to men.


I'm with huckelberry. Though, for the most part, I've tried to step away from your posts, I cringe every time you talk about how women should be 'nicer' to men. What exactly is a man asking for when he asks a woman to be 'nice' to him? This is creepier than hell. I need to type that again: Creeper. Than. Hell.

That aside, in either gender, "nice" is often the patina that puts a shine on a whole host of potential nastiness: traits like inauthenticity, condescension, and manipulation. Give me 'real' over 'nice' any day of the week, and any week of the year. When I was dating, I learned to regard 'nice' as a huge red flag.

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By the way, I want to give a shout out to Marcus for every time she takes the time and makes effort to call out your convulsive sexism. Thank you, Marcus.

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A last word, Thomas. The only thing you have control over is yourself. Doc has said this, over and over. Others have pointed out the same thing. Work on yourself. Go to school, learn a skill that you can do with your hands, join an organization or two--all with the focus of improving yourself. Work on getting friends before you attempt to get romantic partners. If you can't maintain friendships, you have no chance at a real and lasting intimate relationship.

[doubtingthomas]

A last word, Thomas. The only thing you have control over is yourself. Doc has said this, over and over. Others have pointed out the same thing. Work on yourself. Go to school, learn a skill that you can do with your hands, join an organization or two--all with the focus of improving yourself. Work on getting friends before you attempt to get romantic partners. If you can't maintain friendships, you have no chance at a real and lasting intimate relationship.

Sounds reasonable.

Can I also travel to Europe or Mexico in the future?

I am improving myself, but don't most people eventually lower their standards?
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog ... change-age

1) It's not a study, it's an editorial. The clue is right at the top, where it says, "This editorial..." Your relationship with science is just as fraught as your relationship with women.

What makes you think that I don't know what a research study is? Doesn't the editorial refer to a lot of studies?

It's a small mistake, it's no big deal. I should've said paper.

By the way, I want to give a shout out to Marcus for every time she takes the time and makes effort to call out your convulsive sexism. Thank you, Marcus.

Saying that women in Europe, Utah, or Latin America are nicer is sexist?

'm with huckelberry. Though, for the most part, I've tried to step away from your posts, I cringe every time you talk about how women should be 'nicer' to men. What exactly is a man asking for when he asks a woman to be 'nice' to him? This is creepier than hell.

I am not saying that men are entitled to sex with a specific person. There's no need to redefine the words.

[doubtingthomas]

I agree. At this point i just feel like there is a need to point out his sexism every time, at the very least so he doesn’t think that just because people get tired of pointing it out, it’s okay to be such a sexist ass.

Sexism - "characterized by or showing prejudice, stereotyping, or discrimination, typically against women, on the basis of sex."

How is saying that women tend to be nicer in Europe sexist?

Men tend to be less sexist in Norway, would that be stereotyping?