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[honorentheos]

You're not a nice guy.

If I am the problem, then why are Mexicans and Europeans nice to me? Why are LDS nice to me?

Why are people who only interact with you, an American online chatting up young women from other countries, nice? or members of a community who are notoriously warm-bread/cold-shoulder nice?

What a mystery.

You're not a nice guy. You're actually a pretty bad person.

[doubtingthomas]

Why are people who only interact with you, an American online chatting up young women from other countries, nice?

At least they reply to messages, unlike most women in the US. Most Tinder Matches in the US ghost you.

I was "dating" a German girl. I've talked to other Europeans in person, they are very nice people.

Ask the single men who travel, they all say that European girls are very nice.

[doubtingthomas]

If you’re not happy, you’re not THE problem. But you HAVE a problem.

Some people here think that I am "actually a pretty bad person." Honorentheos thinks I am a threat. Does hono need therapy? Does Marcus need therapy for her obsession that everything is sexist? Marcus shows signs of anxiety, she gets very triggered and sees me as an enemy.

You’ll stop obsessing over this issue because your brain will learn that being turned down by women is not the existential threat it thinks it is today.

It'll be nice to teach my brain that. I would much rather remain single for the rest of my life, especially if I could teach my brain to be happy and single, but that's not what the theory of human evolution predicts. We evolved to have intimate partners, so the lack of an intimate partner can't be a good thing.

"The experts say a lack of sex can affect a person’s overall well-being."
https://www.healthline.com/health-news/ ... frequently

I do not have good friends, so I can't replace a good friend with an intimate partner.

Rejection is alright, but what happens when people experience a lot of rejection for many years?

The fact that you mentioned getting even with women who turned you down by turning them down at some point is a huge clue that your brain is sabotaging you. Our brains spew out thoughts and emotions constantly - thousands of time every day. We teach our brains which of these thoughts and emotions are important by how we react to them. Clinging to thoughts tells the brain the thought is important. Actively resisting tells the brain the thought is important. This creates the opportunity for self reinforcing feedback loops that can lead to obsession with a thought or emotion.

True, I am a human being. Marcus quoted, "For starters, men must remember women are human beings with their own desires and goals." Why can't men be human beings too? Being too picky is a problem in society, that's the reason why there's a record number of single women in their 30s and 40s, and that's not a good thing according to the theory of human evolution.

So, I might have a problem, but it doesn't mean there aren't any serious problems in society. The fact that Mexicans and Europeans are more approachable is a strong indication that there's a serious problem in the US.

[doubtingthomas]

Talking about feelings, is it possible that people are denying the problems because of their feelings?

Marcus and the others remind me of the climate change deniers.

If you’re not happy, you’re not THE problem. But you HAVE a problem.

Some people here think that I am "actually a pretty bad person." Honorentheos thinks I am a threat. Does hono need therapy? Does Marcus need therapy for her obsession that everything is sexist? Marcus shows signs of anxiety, she gets very triggered and sees me as an enemy.

You’ll stop obsessing over this issue because your brain will learn that being turned down by women is not the existential threat it thinks it is today.

It'll be nice to teach my brain that. I would much rather remain single for the rest of my life, especially if I could teach my brain to be happy and single, but that's not what the theory of human evolution predicts. We evolved to have intimate partners, so the lack of an intimate partner can't be a good thing.

"The experts say a lack of sex can affect a person’s overall well-being."
https://www.healthline.com/health-news/ ... frequently

I do not have good friends, so I can't replace a good friend with an intimate partner.

Rejection is alright, but what happens when people experience a lot of rejection for many years?

The fact that you mentioned getting even with women who turned you down by turning them down at some point is a huge clue that your brain is sabotaging you. Our brains spew out thoughts and emotions constantly - thousands of time every day. We teach our brains which of these thoughts and emotions are important by how we react to them. Clinging to thoughts tells the brain the thought is important. Actively resisting tells the brain the thought is important. This creates the opportunity for self reinforcing feedback loops that can lead to obsession with a thought or emotion.

True, I am a human being. Marcus quoted, "For starters, men must remember women are human beings with their own desires and goals." Why can't men be human beings too? Being too picky is a problem in society, that's the reason why there's a record number of single women in their 30s and 40s, and that's not a good thing according to the theory of human evolution.

So, I might have a problem, but it doesn't mean there aren't any serious problems in society. The fact that Mexicans and Europeans are more approachable is a strong indication that there's a serious problem in the US.

[canpakes]

The fact that Mexicans and Europeans are more approachable is a strong indication that there's a serious problem in the US.

No. It’s a strong indication that someone is more willing to talk to others when they know that they are physically safer, separated by a border or ocean between countries.

If there was truly a difference, the one of you would already had made an effort to travel to the other.

[doubtingthomas]

No. It’s a strong indication that someone is more willing to talk to others when they know that they are physically safer, separated by a border or ocean between countries.

I don't think most women on Tinder are worried about safety before meeting someone in person. Your address, phone number, and full name isn't public, and people lie about their ages all the time.

Anyways, the men who travel to Europe say that European girls are very nice. I have a "friend" who goes to Spain all the time.

And the fact that Europeans and Mexicans in the US are nicer is strong evidence that I am not the problem.

If there was truly a difference, the one of you would already had made an effort to travel to the other.

That's in my plans.

[canpakes]

Being a ‘foreigner’ on the app has nothing to do with that friendliness, I’m sure. ; )

Do some traveling first. Then you can make your claim.

[doubtingthomas]

Do some traveling first. Then you can make your claim.

There's no need, there are a lot of Mexicans and Europeans in the US.

[Marcus]

...Marcus quoted, "For starters, men must remember women are human beings with their own desires and goals." Why can't men be human beings too? Being too picky is a problem in society, that's the reason why there's a record number of single women in their 30s and 40s, and that's not a good thing according to the theory of human evolution.

Your comments are disjointed and meaningless, except for your consistency in being sexist, and in talking about women as though they are things. Stop being sexist, stop making misogynistic comments, and stop talking about women as though they are things.

[doubtingthomas]

Being a ‘foreigner’ on the app has nothing to do with that friendliness, I’m sure. ; )

In Mexico, women have a lot of respect for men because women can't afford to be alone.

In Europe, women not obsessed with the creeps. Also, religion is less important in Europe. Have you heard to the claim that religion makes people more judgmental?