information update:
Actually, after I carefully viewed the posts in 2007 (
viewtopic.php?f=4&t=104241) from beginning to end, I think I understand why my posts at RfM got deleted twice. It seems that Steve Benson is like a big deal there (his current wife, Claire, just made a post over there, so she's active too), and he can be bitter and cynical. I think the divorce took a toll at least on him. If you check his Wiki, you'll find that it does not even mention Mary Ann and their four children, obviously he at least in some way wants to "erase" her from his life.
I sent an email to Susan I/S asking about my deleted posts, she was kind enough to reply to me, saying I should have respected people's privacy. All I posted was public knowledge, but I respect the policy, though it would be nice if an explanation was given.
And she said that Mary Ann is a very private person, which indicates that she's at least still alive. Is she well? Well, guess we'll never know.