Dr. Shades wrote:KimberlyAnn wrote:Sorry, I guess I wasn't very clear. I told the bishop myself afterward. That's when he told me I should have consulted him first.
Why bother telling the bishop anything? I don't see how it's any of his business.At any rate, he had a vasectomy and within days I had a hysterectomy, so he got snipped for nothing.
In that case, why did he bother with getting snipped? They sell certain prophylactic devices at Wal-Mart that prevent pregnancy just fine.That's probably part of what upset the bishop. My husband and I had both made permanent decisions on birth control and I guess it irritated the bishop that we didn't ask permission first. The bishop said specifically that my husband should have spoken with him first and that it was frowned upon by the Lord for him to have a vasectomy.
So your husband told him he'd had a vasectomy? What business of the bishop's was it to know that?I'd never heard that before.
That's 'cause they don't share the Church Handbook of Instructions. You can't be faulted for not knowing something you weren't informed of.
The bishop wasn't just our bishop, he lived in our neighborhood and we were very close to him and his family. He and his wife were kind of like surrogate parents to me. We dog-sat each others dogs, we sometimes ate dinner together, the bishop's wife and I shopped together and I hosted her sixtieth birthday party.
I told the bishop and his wife about my hysterectomy because they were my friends and because I wanted comfort from my bishop. I was honestly distraught. In my Mormon mind I thought I had let down my little boy and that he would be given to another family. It made me sad. My husband informed the bishop that he had a vasectomy, because he considered him a friend and had no clue it was something that was to be discussed with the bishop beforehand. We were both surprised by his response.
Our bishop was more familiar with us than most bishops are with their congregants. But, he turned on me quickly when I decided to leave the church. Then I saw a side of him I didn't know existed and it was ugly.
Oh, and as for the raincoats, they're not even an option for me. I hate them. As far as I'm concerned, if I must have something covered in rubber it might as well vibrate.
KA