TBMs and thank you notes

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Re: Just wondering

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msnobody wrote:I've sent wedding or should I say reception/open house gifts to two RMs and have yet to get any kind of acknowledgement, except for one where Target said it had been delivered.




BAD MANNERS!
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Re: TBMs and thank you notes

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msnobody wrote:Is it common for TBMs to not send thank you notes for wedding gifts?


My niece-in-law sent a note to my aunt that said: "Thank you for the cake plate. I won't use it though because I never bake cakes." At least my aunt knew the gift had arrived. I've never gotten a note from my niece-in-law, but that's okay because I've found other qualities that I can appreciate in her.
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I remember my wife requiring me to sign all the thank you notes, because she said both signatures were required. I think this is a women thing to be polite and respectful regarding the giving of gifts. For the men (whether Mormon or not) the correct normative behavior would be to grab the towels or Cuisinart and drag them to the back of the cave and scatter them about.
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Re: Just wondering

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msnobody wrote:I've sent wedding or should I say reception/open house gifts to two RMs and have yet to get any kind of acknowledgement, except for one where Target said it had been delivered.


It sounds like they were just rude. I don't know that this is a "TBM" thing. I think it's just a matter of whether or not you have been taught proper social graces.
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Post by _The Nehor »

moksha wrote:I remember my wife requiring me to sign all the thank you notes, because she said both signatures were required. I think this is a women thing to be polite and respectful regarding the giving of gifts. For the men (whether Mormon or not) the correct normative behavior would be to grab the towels or Cuisinart and drag them to the back of the cave and scatter them about.


AMEN!!!!!!

If my friend gives me a gift and I sent a thank-you card they'd probably wonder what had happened to me and I'd lose my guy membership card (good for reduced-price boxers and dumbbells).
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Post by _Scottie »

Most LDS I know do send thank you notes.

Now, RSVP's...that's a different story.
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Post by _Jersey Girl »

Hello nobody!

I don't think this is particular to LDS. I think that etiquette is out the window in our society pretty much across the board.

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Post by _gramps »

The Nehor wrote:
Polygamy Porter wrote:Typically, Mormons will only do a nice gesture if they see a potential missionary moment.


That was you as a Mormon Porter. So when do you do nice gestures now?


Nehor, the chat function you participate in here on this board? that was paid for by PP. Did you know that or conveniently forget ?
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Post by _The Nehor »

gramps wrote:
The Nehor wrote:
Polygamy Porter wrote:Typically, Mormons will only do a nice gesture if they see a potential missionary moment.


That was you as a Mormon Porter. So when do you do nice gestures now?


Nehor, the chat function you participate in here on this board? that was paid for by PP. Did you know that or conveniently forget ?


Both and neither.
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Post by _Gazelam »

Thinking back, we had like 200 thanks you cards to send out. We got like to 120 and said that's it, no more...

Yeh, it was rude not to do the rest, but we were young and dumb. I have always felt guilty for not sending the rest out.
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