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Re: Go to a bar? New thread

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DoubtingThomas wrote:
Lemmie wrote: :rolleyes: Therapy isn't magic.

I do want to see a therapist to see if he can help me feel better.

Okay so this is what I've got so far. You want to see a therapist but it has to be the right therapist for which you'll probably need to drive hundreds of miles but you don't actually know jack about therapy.

Got it.

You want the right therapist.
You want the right girl.

You want everyone to tick off YOUR boxes for rightness but you don't show us that you are lifting so much as a finger (I lied, you're on a device using at least one finger) to make YOURSELF tickable to others.

You have been discussing this with us for well over a year, you haven't made one single move in ANY direction but you like creating thread after thread because this is like therapy.

No it isn't.

Not when you stay stuck on the same topic for over a year, keep saying the same things over and over and over again, making the same excuses over and over and over again, demanding references and statistics over and over again when you can go find whatever it is you want yourself.

Go find a therapist, put yourself in social situations and sink or swim like the rest of the world does.

Let your feelings be hurt, let yourself be rejected, let yourself practice creating relationships with males and females--successful and not successful relationships.

Like the rest of us here have done in our lives.

People here have given you the benefit of their advice and wisdom accumulated over decades of their lives.

Try acting on it. Only don't sit there stuck doing the same thing over and over and over again and expect others to continue to entertain your apathy.
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Re: Go to a bar? New thread

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DoubtingThomas wrote:
Perfume on my Mind wrote:Healthful intimate relationships are between people on equal footing, both emotionally and with respect to maturity.

Do you have some references to back up your claim that an 18 year old woman cannot have a healthy relationship with a guy in his 20s?

Perfume on your mind didn't make that claim, you brought it up last time you quoted him:

DoubtingThomas, pages back, wrote:
Perfume on my Mind wrote:Healthful intimate relationships are between people on equal footing, both emotionally and with respect to maturity.

Out of curiosity can you please give me some references? I will never date an 18 year old woman if you can prove that a guy in his 20s can't have a healthy relationship with an 18 year old.

And now you continue:

DT wrote:According to some studies 16 year olds should be allowed to vote. If a 16 year is old enough to vote, then I think an 18 year old is old enough to be in a relationship with an older man.

"Finally, the authors critically examine claims that adolescents are neither neurologically nor socially mature enough to vote responsibly and conclude that empirical evidence and fairness suggest that 16- and 17-year-olds ought to be awarded the vote."

https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10 ... 6210382395

That article is irrelevant to your argument that older men should be allowed to date minors.

You always seem to come back to your obsession with dating underage girls, and you've indicated that you are twice that age. It's still creepy, and still wrong. What's your point, DT?
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Lemmie wrote:You always seem to come back to your obsession with dating underage girls, and you've indicated that you are twice that age. It's still creepy, and still wrong. What's your point, DT?

18 to 22 is not underage. I can legally date a 17 year old in my state, but I am only looking for 18 or older. I am attracted to younger adult women, it is a sexual orientation. It is not a choice and scientific studies proved it. It seems you don't have any references to prove that an 18 year old can't have a healthy relationship with a guy in his 20s.

I am not in my 30s, but my age doesn't really matter. I am 33 years old if you want me to be that age.
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Re: Go to a bar? New thread

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Lemmie is an @$$hole. You need some therapy woman.
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Jersey Girl wrote:Okay so this is what I've got so far. You want to see a therapist but it has to be the right therapist for which you'll probably need to drive hundreds of miles but you don't actually know jack about therapy.

Probably not, but I do appreciate your efforts to help me.
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honorentheos wrote:
Jersey Girl wrote:You need a therapist.

Yup.

I think Lemmie needs some therapy too. She keeps adding words to my mouth and I don't know what game she is playing.

I say things like

DoubtingThomas wrote: I would prefer 18 to 22, but it is not a requirement. I am kind of dating a 46 year old woman.

and she replies with

Lemmie wrote:You always seem to come back to your obsession with dating underage girls

That is just so wrong and nasty.
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Well, I guess I have no place to express my worries, frustrations, and feelings. I thought I was part on an online community.
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DoubtingThomas wrote:
Lemmie wrote:You always seem to come back to your obsession with dating underage girls, and you've indicated that you are twice that age. It's still creepy, and still wrong. What's your point, DT?

18 to 22 is not underage. I can legally date a 17 year old in my state, but I am only looking for 18 or older. I am attracted to younger adult women, it is a sexual orientation. It is not a choice and scientific studies proved it. It seems you don't have any references to prove that an 18 year old can't have a healthy relationship with a guy in his 20s.

I am not in my 30s, but my age doesn't really matter. I am 33 years old if you want me to be that age.

It is just so messed up!
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honorentheos wrote:DT, if you are misrepresenting yourself

I noticed that a lot of people on the dating apps misrepresent their age. Probably because they simply don't want people to judge them as "too old" without getting to to know them first. I am not in my 30s and I really don't have to lie here. What would the point be? I won't find a younger woman here.

honorentheos wrote:unhealthy attitudes towards younger women

I like younger adult women and I hope to date some before it is too late. My time in running out. I am attracted to younger adult women and women much (20+) older me. I don't know why, but it is not a choice. For some reason I am not very attracted to women my age. I have all the time in the world for older women, but not for younger women between 18 and 22.
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...I am 33 years old if you want me to be that age...

That is the age you are based on what you have previously posted so yes, let's go with that.

She keeps adding words to my mouth and I don't know what game she is playing.

I say things like

DoubtingThomas wrote:I would prefer 18 to 22, but it is not a requirement. I am kind of dating a 46 year old woman.

and she replies with

Lemmie wrote:You always seem to come back to your obsession with dating underage girls

That is just so wrong and nasty.

Oh please. Here's you from p 5:

DT wrote:The median age of the first marriage is now 28 years (Pew 2011), so of course older people transmit less STDs because married people usually have one partner. The STD numbers above tell us nothing about older people that are single. And statistically (on average) the older a woman is the more sexual partners she has had in her life. I wouldn't want a woman that has received a lot of d***ks or has 3+ children. That is why I would prefer 18-22.

Whatever game you're playing with your posts here, that's creepy.
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