doubtingthomas wrote: ↑Mon Mar 06, 2023 8:52 pm
Res Ipsa wrote: ↑Mon Mar 06, 2023 6:56 pm
You aren’t different. You’re in denial. And your’re going to be eaten alive by anger and resentment until you get the help you need.
Someone who is in denial isn't open to other possibilities. It may be the case that I can be happy and single and live a long and healthy life. I am open to that possibility. I agree that rejection isn't a bad thing. A girl saying "No" isn't the end of the world.
However, would you acknowledge that long-term loneliness can cause a lot of young men to be misogynist? Rejection is fine, long-term rejection is not, especially if you don't have good friends.
No. Denial in this context is being willfully blind to some ugly and destructive emotions you are feeling and constructing an elaborate system of reasoning in an attempt to convince yourself that you are justified in clinging to those emotions.
This elaborate structure your brain has constructed (you can think of it as a defense mechanism) includes saying things about yourself that are inconsistent with your actions. Yes, you know how to type the words “I am open to other possibilities,” but we’ve all watched you work very hard at finding reasons why those “possibilities” aren’t really possibilities at all.
I’m not going to respond to your “Wouldn’t you agree” question because what you are asking me to to is to harm you. I’m not willing to do anything that will signal to you in any way that the anger and resentment that is driving your obsession with the sex lives of young women is justifiable in any way, shape or form. Your threads on this topic have nothing to do with persuading anyone other than yourself of something that is harmful and destructive to you. You are free to choose to nurture your anger and resentment or to to learn how to allow it to pass on. But I’m not going to be complicit in self-destructive behavior now that I understand it for what it is.
Every minute you spend in digging through Research to find ways to blame young women’s choices in partners and seeking approval on this board will make it even harder for you to get to that happy life you want. You can continue to sabotage yourself if you want, but don’t ask me to assist you.
So, don’t bother seeking my agreement or approval on anything remotely connected with your obsession. You won’t get it. But you might get some more musing on how what you are doing is self destructive.
Have you made an appointment yet?