Wish I lurked for a while before returning.

[Res Ipsa]

Trying to understand why people interact with others the way they do.

Please forgive them.

That's good advice.

[IWMP]

Interesting exercise. I am curious to know what you learned.

That this place might be a bit more like an asylum than I thought joking. I didn't learn much more than I already detected.

[IWMP]

No.. thanks.

I don't think I mentioned anything about needs needing fulfilling. I felt at 3am that if I had lurked I could develop an understanding of the dynamic of how everyone reacts to each other.

Bolding mine. I think malkie was probably referencing this:

Not found what I'm looking for.

I'd be curious to know what you would hope to gain with that extra knowledge from lurking. Personally I was a LONG time lurker, I read here for years before posting. Looking back, I would have told younger Xen to jump in much sooner.

Not sure if it is at all applicable for you but for me, one of the lessons I learned very early on was to stop feeling responsible for how other posters behaved here. The only person I have any agency over is myself, so I work to keep my posts respectful, engaging, and on-topic (not saying I'm actually any good at it, but that is the goal). That mindset change was a big shift in my enjoyment of participation on the board.

I think maybe I worried about offending people more than I needed to.

[IWMP]

I felt at 3am that if I had lurked I could develop an understanding of the dynamic of how everyone reacts to each other.

You can do that while participating too.

I don't think there's anything special about the way this community interacts. Different personalities in any group will have their own unique dynamics with each other.

Is there a specific question you're looking to answer?

True.

[Marcus]

Welcome to the asylum

An anything goes sect

Where reason are abandoned

The one almighty Shades whom mods serve and protect

Apologies for the word adjustments to both Shades and to the composer Samuel Laflamme, who said about his asylum, The main goal is to make the player suffer.

[Doctor Steuss]

I think maybe I worried about offending people more than I needed to.

One thing I've learned about this joint, is that no matter how rough-and-tumble it may get, it's ultimately kind of a family.

I don't doubt for a second that those who seem like the most ardent "enemies" here would immediately jump to action if the other was in need. I've seen it happen before, with some pretty toxic posters, where when they needed something, people here mobilized.

Try not to worry. I totally understand (it's a constant source of anxiety for me that I'll say something that is incredibly stupid, or will make people think less of me, or that will cause a hurt that someone will carry with them), but ultimately you've got to trust to people here are genuinely good and kind, and see you as genuinely good and kind also. One of the greatest expressions of trust, is being able to be wrong, and/or point out when someone else is wrong, knowing that those moments will lead to growth rather than regression.

You're a good egg Pirate. We see it. Now go forth, and post with a clean heart.

[Marcus]

I think maybe I worried about offending people more than I needed to.

One thing I've learned about this joint, is that no matter how rough-and-tumble it may get, it's ultimately kind of a family.

I don't doubt for a second that those who seem like the most ardent "enemies" here would immediately jump to action if the other was in need. I've seen it happen before, with some pretty toxic posters, where when they needed something, people here mobilized.

Try not to worry. I totally understand (it's a constant source of anxiety for me that I'll say something that is incredibly stupid, or will make people think less of me, or that will cause a hurt that someone will carry with them), but ultimately you've got to trust to people here are genuinely good and kind, and see you as genuinely good and kind also. One of the greatest expressions of trust, is being able to be wrong, and/or point out when someone else is wrong, knowing that those moments will lead to growth rather than regression.

You're a good egg Pirate. We see it. Now go forth, and post with a clean heart.

Nicely said, Dr. Steuss.

[Res Ipsa]

Welcome to the asylum

An anything goes sect

Where reason are abandoned

The one almighty Shades whom mods serve and protect

Apologies for the word adjustments to both Shades and to the composer Samuel Laflamme, who said about his asylum, The main goal is to make the player suffer.

Indeed.

[Res Ipsa]

I think maybe I worried about offending people more than I needed to.

One thing I've learned about this joint, is that no matter how rough-and-tumble it may get, it's ultimately kind of a family.

I don't doubt for a second that those who seem like the most ardent "enemies" here would immediately jump to action if the other was in need. I've seen it happen before, with some pretty toxic posters, where when they needed something, people here mobilized.

Try not to worry. I totally understand (it's a constant source of anxiety for me that I'll say something that is incredibly stupid, or will make people think less of me, or that will cause a hurt that someone will carry with them), but ultimately you've got to trust to people here are genuinely good and kind, and see you as genuinely good and kind also. One of the greatest expressions of trust, is being able to be wrong, and/or point out when someone else is wrong, knowing that those moments will lead to growth rather than regression.

You're a good egg Pirate. We see it. Now go forth, and post with a clean heart.

Amen.

[Bret Ripley]

I think maybe I worried about offending people more than I needed to.

One thing I've learned about this joint, is that no matter how rough-and-tumble it may get, it's ultimately kind of a family.

I don't doubt for a second that those who seem like the most ardent "enemies" here would immediately jump to action if the other was in need. I've seen it happen before, with some pretty toxic posters, where when they needed something, people here mobilized.

Try not to worry. I totally understand (it's a constant source of anxiety for me that I'll say something that is incredibly stupid, or will make people think less of me, or that will cause a hurt that someone will carry with them), but ultimately you've got to trust to people here are genuinely good and kind, and see you as genuinely good and kind also. One of the greatest expressions of trust, is being able to be wrong, and/or point out when someone else is wrong, knowing that those moments will lead to growth rather than regression.

You're a good egg Pirate. We see it. Now go forth, and post with a clean heart.

The only flaw with the above is it's too long to embroider on a pillow. Or I need bigger pillows.